We are still settling back into real life from our vow renewal! It was more magical than we could ever have imagined! Our favorite part of the entire day was the exchange of our vows. You see the first time we got married we didn’t write our vows. We honestly don’t even remember what we said. Its such a blur. We only know what we said because somewhere in our wedding box lies a brochure we got from our pastor who married us with the vows that we said. We just repeated what he told us to say. At the time we thought it was intimate. We were twenty, totally not romantic and just felt weird pouring our hearts out in front of a group of people. Yes as open as we are about our relationship now, it wasn’t always like that. We were very private and did not care to draw any attention to ourselves.
The other reason that we decided not to write our vows was because we just didn’t know what to say. Landon was nervous to say something corny. I on the other hand just wasn’t as good at expressing myself as I am today. I didn’t know where to begin.
This time around it was so important to us to write our own vows. Writing them was so simple because we just spoke from our hearts. I was confident that I couldn’t screw it up as long as I just spoke from my heart. So for those of you who want to but are intimidated by what to say maybe this advice will help you.
- Think about your life before your significant other.
- List the things that made you fall in love with them
- What do you want to promise that person
Writing our vows this time around was the best thing we could have ever done! It was nice to hear Landon tell me how much he loves me, how I’ve changed his life. Hearing him promise to love and protect and honor me and our daughters was the sweetest sound to my little ears ever. Being able to do the same in return was so freeing. Knowing that he knew exactly how I felt was freeing. The stage fright feeling completely disappeared because nothing else mattered . The only thing that mattered is that I said everything I needed to say to him. Explain to him how much I love him and why. Vow my life to him. There is nothing more intimate than poring your heart out to the one you love.
With that said, if you were curious on wether we suggest writing your own wedding vows or not , we totally say WRITE THEM. You get one chance to say these. One chance to declare your love and vow your life. It should be your words not someone else. The difference is huge! I am still playing back his vows in my mind and every time I think of them I smile.
Photo of our Vow Books by Nicole Lapierre